I don’t like New Year’s resolutions. I just like to make changes from day one and stick with them. It’s too much to start everything all on one day; it overwhelms the brain and causes people to abandon their resolutions. My view is more like a set of goals for the year: keep them time-oriented and specific, have them build on each other, and–most importantly–make them measurable. That being said, here is a starter list of goals, objectives, and ideas for 2009:
First and foremost, 2008 is over. Stop dwelling on it. I know that this is really the opposite of what I stated my definition of “goals” is, but this is the one thing that sits as the linchpin for every other goal on this list. Stop thinking thoughts of Nadia. She did what she did and I did what I did. Stop picturing it; stop replaying it in your mind. Remember the good times, but realise why things ended. Leave the pain behind, seek counseling if needed. Understand that there are friends that care about me deeply, and that their love is stronger than hers. It’s not conjugal, but it doesn’t need to be. The girls are well-taken care of. Sake and Ms. Briggs are safe with the Midanis and Sentra is doing well by Granny. Burn the mementos–you don’t need them anymore. Find forgiveness for the biggest mistake you ever made.
Finalise the situation with the house. Get the house back within code so there’s no longer a court-order looming over. Ask the right questions. Find out what to do to get square with the bank. Resolve the outstanding utility bills. Be free of the second-biggest mistake you ever made.
Make time to read more. Finish The Journey of Self Discovery by the end of January. Read when you’re working in the library–it’s not like there’s much else better to do.
Make exercise part of your daily routine. All or nothing. Pick up Budokon and T’ai Chi, learn the routines, and practice them. Hit the elliptical trainer and the rowing machine. Break 2:00 on the 500m row. Finish the 1000m row.
Save money. Don’t make unnecessary trips. Stop coming to Atlanta every weekend, find things to entertain in Middle Georgia. Spend time with your acquaintances there–make friends. Enjoy your college time again.
Pull the GPA up above 3.0. Shoot for at least a 3.5. Get a new organiser for 2009. Stay on top of due dates, budget time more appropriately, and actually read the material–study it as necessary. Put in the effort and reward yourself.
This is by no means a comprehensive list, but a good place to start. I’m sure there will be more objectives coming along as they become apparent. Stay tuned; 2008 is the worst year on record for me, and there’s nowhere left to go but back up.